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Mood swings are the order of the day: One minute I am excited and relieved to have the third edition of our handbook printed and in hand. The next minute I am caught in a wave of fear, doubt and insecurity.  But reading your favorable comments, dear readers ...wow... sends that wave packing!  Thank you, thank you, thank you. On the upswing, here's my latest tack for marketing, suitable for forwarding:
 
Could **you** use a simple formula for How To Tell Somebody Something They'd Rather Not Hear?  You can find it in Where the Heart Listens, our parenting and lifeskills book now available on Amazon and just in time for Valentine's Day. Get it as a gift to yourself or for a parent you admire.  Ask your favorite local bookseller to order it through Ingram or request it at Barnes and Noble.  Don't forget, also, to ask your public library to order the book and tell your friends about it.
 
(I will get the hang of blogging. Slow and steady wins the race.)

The voice of reason, in comments on this report just released, comes from a father of three boys in Ashland, Pa.: "There has to be a balance," says Paul Caputo. I could not agree more!  While Vicky Rideout of Kaiser Foundation says that media use is "not inherently bad or good" it is clear that there is such a thing as too much. Chandler DeWitt, profiled in the USA Today article (Jan.20,2010) by Greg Toppo, said, "With technology, if you are trying to get a response from someone, there are so many ways you can get rejected...more opportunities to get bad news."
 
According to the survey, the more media young people use, the less happy then tend to be. The question Toppo asks - but finds no answers to in the report - is "Does consuming a lot of media makes children's lives more troubled, or do troubled kids simply consume more media?"
 

I guess that's why we go to church, to be lifted up:  One of the lessons today was on the gifts of the spirit and how each of us receives our own particular gifts. The message reassured me, because I've been thinking that I am not doing enough or maybe just not doing the right things. 
 
Then I thought of a line from Lily Tomlin's character Edith Ann in the book My Life So Far. Edith Ann complains that either she must not be doing enough or someone else is getting all the credit!  So maybe I am doing enough.
 
And the horrifying situation in Haiti?  All I can do is pray about that.  I can continue to do that.

The disaster is geographically distant from me in Cambridge, Mass., and so enormous that it is very hard to grasp. But many Haitians live and work near us in Boston and are affected. How can we support them, as individuals and as parents? 
 
A booklist came to me from Daryl Mark of the Cambridge Public Library and I am posting it on this site under 'In The News' - where I hope it will be useful to readers here - or anywhere - who are personally affected by the disaster and to anyone with friends, neighbors, coworkers worried about the fate of their loved ones in Haiti. Blessings and prayers are with you and with all those trying to help.

Yes, the usual: lose 20 pounds, exercise more ...and blog more often, to keep in touch with whomever may be reading my posts.  Whoooo are you?
The third edition of Where the Heart Listens is at our printer and we are waiting for the final proof. Things always take longer than I imagine they will. But this is it!
I had a minor meltdown Friday over the book and 'putting my story out there' for anyone to know. It is scary!  One wonderful (anonymous) son reassured me that basically my story, the Parents Forum story, is one of 'struggle, adversity and overcoming' and he said 'there is no perfect 10' in parenting. That was exactly what I needed to hear.  So now I am ready ...he helped me push myself out of the nest, I guess you could say.

Well, the saying "you can't win 'em all" is true, as the Parents Forum entry did not make the list of finalists in the Rethinking Mental Health: Improving Community Well-being competition which just ended. Certainly the experience of being invited to enter, being selected as a network partner and my being chosen as a changemaker and featured on the site were all very gratifying!  Our entry received over 1200 reads, so the competition served as a great platform for us to spread the word about our program.  And we will keep on keeping on!

In Vienna on Monday November 23rd I gave a talk on 'Parenting education and support, keys to family well-being' at a meeting of the Vienna Committee of NGOs on the Family.  It was well received - yeah! - and will be included in the next quarterly edition of Families International, the Committee newsletter.  The full text of the speech is posted under the header 'Learn' in the section 'In The News.'  In my remarks I suggested:

...an international essay contest on the question: "How would you, as a philanthropist, invest $10 million to better prepare, educate and support parents for their most important job: raising children?" and said that if I were entering that contest today I would call for three things:

Tom Matlack, creator of the Good Men Project, has this to say about our entry in Changemakers:
 
I certainly applaud the work of Parents Forum, for kids, moms and specially dads. I am particularly sensitive to this issue as a formerly divorced dad facing spending time with two baby children on my own. I had to learn on the job! Thankfully those kids are now in high school, I have remarried and have four year old to practice on with my second wife. The work of the Forum also supports what I am doing at *The Good Men Project* a foundation that hopes to spark a national conversation about manhood and supporting programs for at-risk boys. So much of what men talk about in our format is being a father and a son. It is at the very core of who we are as men. So we need help from organizations like Parents Forum all the more!
 
Thank you, Tom!  And I look forward to reading your book!

Deep breaths!  
The competition now enters the next phase.  Entries, including ours, are complete. I know because they told me: 
Congratulations! You have successfully entered the “Rethinking Mental Health: Improving Community Wellbeing” collaborative competition. Ashoka's Changemakers is excited to introduce your work to a global community interested in learning more about your innovations. You can read your entry here http://www.changemakers.com/en-us/node/53889/entries
I hope you will register with Changemakers so that you can comment and, eventually, vote!
   1. Register on the www.changemakers.com site with a name and password of your choosing
   2. Go to our entry: Parents Forum (the URL above with /54679 at the end)
   3. Under 'Take action' click on 'discuss'
   4. Click on 'add a comment'
   5. Key in a title for your comment -and- your comment

...imagine similar, even stronger effect on children's behavior and emotional development!
This is from the Public Education Network Weekly NewsBlast today October 9, 2009
Emotional and behavioral development paves the way to achievement