Eve Sullivan's blog

If the people lead . . .

Bartletts, or else my search technique, has failed me. The quote I am looking for is, "If the people lead, the leaders will follow," and it came to mind yesterday when Parents Forum board and friends gathered yesterday to mark Respect for Parents Day.
I think we need to begin by respecting ourselves as parents and supporting each other more consistently. Take a look at 
Deb Coppins, founder of Our Starting Point, has the right idea: We need to make parenting education a priority, speak up for it and for ourselves. I hope you agree and if you do, I'd like to hear from you. I'd like to hear, too, if you know the origin of the quote!

Why do we so often think . . .

that economic justice is a problem only for poor people?
that gender equity, along with sexual assault and sex trafficking, are concerns only for women?
that intimate partner violence can be resolved by helping only the victims?
that racial equality is an issue only for people of color?
that mental health and recovery are the province only of people who are mentally ill or addicted?
that criminal justice concerns should be addressed primarily with programs for individuals who are in jail or prison?
And last, why do we think that family wellbeing can best be promoted by helping children?
These pervasive social issues affect everyone. Family wellbeing, and all of these issues in fact, can be addressed in some significant measure by positive supports for parents. As important as targeted programs are for those suffering directly, we need also to step back and do more in the way of prevention.

Today's the day for donuts ...and discussions

What's more important, treats or talk? Both are of course and I am a big fan of chatting. I hope to see some of the readers of this (very occasional) blog at Davis Square in Somerville (Mass.) this afternoon between 1pm and 3pm. The address is 250 Elm Street, near the Davis Square RedLine T Station. Come meet Aya Isumi, visiting Parents Forum from Japan, and hear about plans for research on our program. 
The donuts will be from Union Square Donuts but the get-together is in Davis Square!

Report from Tunis, and FIEP

Steven Pinker . . . a quote I read on a Chipotle bag, of all places . . . said, "We will never have a perfect world, but it is not romantic or naive to work toward a better one." I am in Tunis this week for the 50th anniversary conference of the International Federation for Parenting Education (FIEP/IFPE).
My seatmate on the flight from Boston to Paris was an Algerian man. When I asked if he was a dad, he said - with a big smile - "Yes, I am the father of two little girls." Conveniently, I had the Parents Forum "Tools of the Trade" in Arabic, to give him. It was the least I could do, as I had upended a dish of lentils from my dinner tray all over his trousers (and mine). Economy class is a sardine can, no room to move!
Raising children is such a joy and such a job! We need to do more to support parents. I look forward to the conference at the end of this week and to hearing the perspectives of parenting education colleagues from around the world. I trust that our efforts will do more than a little bit to make the world a better place for all our children.

Jay Z said "Dream Big, Be Unrealistic" …I'm ready!

The beginning of my horoscope today - - which ends 'Start small' - - is much more inspirational: 'Travel, connect with old friends and... consider offering a service that is in dire need in your community.'
January looks right in line with this advice. In a week's time I will fly to Tunis to visit a dear friend whom I have not seen in close to ten years, then I will take part in the 50th anniversary of the International Federation for Parenting Education
What service could our communities be in more dire need of than parenting education? The year is off to a good start: I got the laundry done. This morning I'll spend time with two of my grandchildren and this afternoon I will visit my youngest grandnephew. Tomorrow I'll get cracking on our local parenting education initiative. Happy, happy!

Our goal as parenting educators

We want parents to raise compassionate children . . . http://nyti.ms/1m00bbn . . . right?
The parenting education and support that social services presently offer does not seem to do enough to help enough parents accomplish this goal. I suggest we consider more peer support. Yes, that is what Parents Forum is all about. We need more modeling of what Amy Dickinson 'AskAmy' @askingamy describes as friendship's highest calling: listening without judgment and offering assistance when asked.
Wishing a Happy New Year to family and friends and to strangers as well, the friends I haven't met.

World stage, a starring role for parenting education?

Yes, there were over 4000 other representatives of nonprofits at the UN in New York last week for the Department of Public Information (DPI) NGO conference, but parenting education was represented. I was there on behalf of the
International Federation for Parenting Education http://www.fiep-ifpe.fr
     celebrating its 50-year anniversary !
Please write to info@parentsforum.org if you want more information in FIEP!
Two highlights -- after a three-hour line for registration -- were a panel presentation on media strategies to support mental health, thanks to the NGO Mental Health Committee http://www.mentalhealthngo.org, and the opportunity to contribute to the final conference declaration. Not sure yet if this point was included, but please tell me what you think...

Qatar 'Empowering Families' Conference, reporting on day one

Before I tell you about the conference, I have to say a few words about the experience of this, my first trip to the Gulf Region.
What I'm glad I brought: crackers (to have as snack instead of ordering room service), headphones (for the gym), masking tape (to make a small band-aid, with a piece of tissue, for a little blister on one toe after a day of walking), the adapter plug for laptop charger of course.
What I wish I'd brought: a 100-watt lightbulb. All the lighting in the room is very dim. When I asked to have a higher wattage blub, they brought me a flood light!
What makes Doha look so different from back home, Cambridge, Mass.: the wide variety of black abayas women wear, some with very ornate embroidery, camel races -- apparently -- on the tv in the gym, gracious service at every turn (I am not to used to this, since I usually stay in a youth hostel when I travel), construction projects everywhere and an incredible variety of modern architecture.
What I saw on the first two days in Doha:

Overdue for an update - exciting stuff coming up

Seriously, I should post more often.
Tomorrow (Thursday March 27, 2014) there is a meeting of the UN NGO Committee on the Family in New York, at 12:30 in the Church Center. The topic is "Military Parents and the Family: An Exploration of Paths to Strengthen the Family" 
Included in the program is discussion of peer support. Yeah!
   Pat Raskin: "Reuniting: Finding each other after deployment
   Kay Higgs-Adams "Now that they are back: A focus on children of military families"

A New Year's Day telephone call

Last evening, back from a movie, I was sitting at the kitchen table enjoying a cup of tea. When the phone rang I thought it might be one of my sons, but it was another mother's child.
The young lady, calling from Georgia (the state, not the country), said someone had recommended she contact Parents Forum for advice on getting in to college. I never saw that coming! We had a fascinating conversation - despite the tinny sound, she was on a cell phone - as I wracked my brain for advice or encouragement to give her . . . YearUp . . . City Year ? She had been in touch with the former and said it didn't work out. The second was new to her. She looked it up online while we were talking and said she would contact City Year.